Did you know that over 90 percent of communication is relayed through body language? In other words, talk is cheap; it’s a person’s actions that indicate the bigger message.

This is great news for anyone in a relationship, especially people who feel their partner is lying. You know what I’m talking about: You’ve got that knotted feeling in the pit of your stomach, and it won’t go away. Something in your mate’s eyes and voice just doesn’t jibe, and you can’t shake the feeling that they’re being dishonest with you.

You might be right.

You’ve heard it said that liars won’t look you in the eye, and this is true. Nevertheless, many liars are familiar with this theory, and they put care into making eye contact in order to contradict it. With that being said, before calling someone dishonest, look for multiple signs of lying.

These include:

Posture: The posture of a liar is stiff, almost motionless. Arm and hand movements are few if any, and more often than not, arms are crossed over the person’s chest. They appear closed off.

Fidgeting: Are they scratching their face, nose, or head? Do they insist on peeling off that bottle label? If your spouse can’t stop fidgeting with their self or nearby objects, this is a sign of nervousness. They might be lying.

Reactions: Liars feel an extreme need to convince others of their untruths. With that being said, they will often go overboard on their reactions. If you suspect they’re being insincere, they probably are.

Expressions: A liar’s facial expressions don’t coordinate well with what’s coming out of their mouth. In other words, if they tell you they’re happy about something, only to smile two seconds later, it’s only because their not being genuine.

Attitude: When someone is guilty, they often take a defensive stance. Consider this the next time your spouse puts their guard up on a certain issue.

The preceding dealt with a liar’s body language. While you can tell a great deal by a person’s actions, the words coming out of their mouths can also be indicative of a lie. Are they rambling on? They’re probably being untruthful. Listen to the tone in their voice. Does it lack emotion? That’s because the message is insincere.

The use of contractions (i.e. “can’t” instead of “can not”) is typical of someone being honest. With that being said, if your mate tells you they “can not” go to the reception with you, they’re probably lying.

While all of these tips are handy for your relationship, it’s essential that you question your inability to trust your mate. What is it about his or her behavior that has you troubled, and is it worth your time? No relationship can last without trust, so it might be a good idea to bring your feelings to the table.

You’ll know by your mate’s reaction if they’re lying.

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