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  by Derrick 2 months ago

  The Body Language of a Liar
  
  Did you know that over 90 percent of communication is relayed through body language? In other words, talk is cheap; it’s a person’s actions that indicate the bigger message.
  
  This is great news for anyone in a relationship, especially people who feel their partner is lying. You know what I’m talking about: You’ve got that knotted feeling in the pit of your stomach, and it won’t go away. Something in your mate’s eyes and voice just doesn’t jibe, and you can’t shake the feeling that they’re being dishonest with you.
  
  You might be right.
  
  You’ve heard it said that liars won’t look you in the eye, and this is true. Nevertheless, many liars are familiar with this theory, and they put care into making eye contact in order to contradict it. With that being said, before calling someone dishonest, look for multiple signs of lying.
  
  These include:
  
  Posture: The posture of a liar is stiff, almost motionless. Arm and hand movements are few if any, and more often than not, arms are crossed over the person’s chest. They appear closed off.
  
  Fidgeting: Are they scratching their face, nose, or head? Do they insist on peeling off that bottle label? If your spouse can’t stop fidgeting with their self or nearby objects, this is a sign of nervousness. They might be lying.
  
  Reactions: Liars feel an extreme need to convince others of their untruths. With that being said, they will often go overboard on their reactions. If you suspect they’re being insincere, they probably are.
  
  Expressions: A liar’s facial expressions don’t coordinate well with what’s coming out of their mouth. In other words, if they tell you they’re happy about something, only to smile two seconds later, it’s only because their not being genuine.
  
  Attitude: When someone is guilty, they often take a defensive stance. Consider this the next time your spouse puts their guard up on a certain issue.
  
  The preceding dealt with a liar’s body language. While you can tell a great deal by a person’s actions, the words coming out of their mouths can also be indicative of a lie. Are they rambling on? They’re probably being untruthful. Listen to the tone in their voice. Does it lack emotion? That’s because the message is insincere.
  
  The use of contractions (i.e. “can’t” instead of “can not”) is typical of someone being honest. With that being said, if your mate tells you they “can not” go to the reception with you, they’re probably lying.
  
  While all of these tips are handy for your relationship, it’s essential that you question your inability to trust your mate. What is it about his or her behavior that has you troubled, and is it worth your time? No relationship can last without trust, so it might be a good idea to bring your feelings to the table.
  
  You’ll know by your mate’s reaction if they’re lying.
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  by Derrick 2 months ago

  The Body Language of Honesty
  
  You want to believe your lover isn’t like all the others, but you just don’t know for sure. On one hand, you genuinely feel like they’re a good person. On the other hand, you’ve been tricked before, so you never know. Is there any way to tell if your mate isn’t lying?
  
  The answer is yes.
  
  While many articles focus on the body language of liars, it’s far easier to tell if someone isn’t lying to you. Their overall posture is more relaxed, and their energy sends you a sort of message indicating that you can trust them. In other words, your gut just knows.
  
  This article is all about the body language of honesty. In a world filled with cheaters and liars, it helps to know the signs of someone you can trust. The following are some of the more common ones…
  
  Eye Contact
  
  Don’t get uptight if they look down at the ground for a few seconds, but generally, a person telling the truth will make eye contact with you. This is because they’ve got nothing to hide, and as a result, they’re not afraid to look straight at you. On the contrary, a liar is (deep down) ashamed of their fib, and they’ll be hesitant to meet your gaze.
  
  Smiles
  
  Sincere smiles reach all the way up to the eyes…literally. The outside corners of a person’s eyes will crinkle when they’re being genuine. This is not so with a fake smile. Almost everyone has witnessed a forced smile; the person looks almost robotic in their gesture. If, on the other hand, your mate’s entire face gets into the fun, you know they really mean it.
  
  Words
  
  People who are being honest are more relaxed with their vocabulary, especially when it comes to the use of contractions. For those of you who forgot, contractions are the meshing together of two words (i.e. “can” and “not” contract into “can’t”). In terms of honesty, people who aren’t lying tend to use contractions more than dishonest people. It all boils down to paranoia, or the lack thereof.
  
  Reactions
  
  If your mate goes along with the topic, chances are good they’re not lying. In contrast, a person who’s lying will be eager to change the subject. If you stick to your guns, they’ll grow defensive. The next time you attempt to have an in-depth discussion with your partner, consider how they behave towards the confrontation.
  
  Summary
  
  In truth, if you really trust your mate, you shouldn’t have to read this article whatsoever. On the other hand, it never hurts to learn a few tricks, and reading body language is certainly a handy one. By now, you should have a strong indication of whether or not your lover is trustworthy. Once you do, let go of your doubts, and enjoy a happy and loving relationship.
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  by Derrick 3 months ago

  Lying when Dating…Don’t do it.
  
  Lies can be so tempting. After all, the truth isn’t always so desirable, so it’s natural to want to tweak things in our favor. This is certainly true when it comes to dating and romance.
  
  Unfortunately, what your mother taught you about lying was true…don’t do it. Not only is it difficult to keep up with your lies, but your reputation is at stake if your dishonesty is uncovered.
  
  The problem is that many singles lie when it comes to romance. The desire to impress another person overrides their common sense, and as a result, they avoid the truth. While this may sound innocent enough, trust me when I say it’s not.
  
  Here are the various types of dating lies, and why they’re bad:
  
  First Date Lies
  
  There’s a tendency to lie or “fudge” the truth on first dates. They’re similar to job interviews, in that we want the other party to approve of us. As a result, we’ll talk and behave in a manner that’s not our norm.
  
  You might be thinking, “What’s the harm in telling a little lie on a first date?” The answer is that there’s a lot of harm in it. Think about it: You’re starting the relationship out on a dishonest foot, and we all know how important trust is in a relationship. What happens if (down the road) your partner discovers your lie?
  
  The Internet
  
  It’s not uncommon for people to “fake” their personalities on the Internet. If you’re participating in online dating, you might be able to relate to this.
  
  At first, the lies seem harmless. After all, you’re not dealing with people face-to-face…yet. But what happens when you do meet in the flesh? By that point, you’ve got a “Worldwide Web” of deceit to unravel, which is easier said than done. No matter where you’re interacting with singles, it’s always best to be honest.
  
  When you’re playing the field…
  
  Let the other person know. It’s natural to not want to hurt someone’s feelings, but imagine how terrible they’ll feel once they discover they’re not your “one and only.” Not only will you come off as a cheater, but your reputation will be tainted.
  
  If you want to prevent this, lay the rules down at the start of the relationship. If your desire is to see multiple people, simply tell the other person this. They may go along with your plan, or they may not. Whatever the case, you were honest, and at the end of the day, honesty is the best policy.
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  by Derrick 3 months ago

  Older Women Dating Younger Men: Some Things to Consider
  
  Dating a younger man is more involved than just a cute face and fun time. If you’re a woman in this situation, you’ve got some thinking to do.
  
  I’m certainly not bashing older women who date younger men. After all, older men have been dating younger women for years, and not a word has been said about it. In fact, if an older woman has still got what it takes to attract any man of any age, more props to her!
  
  I’m simply saying that dating below your age should be approached realistically. There are certain circumstances, viewpoints, and other things to consider before becoming too serious. Read on to learn more.
  
  Why are you dating younger men?
  
  It’s not uncommon for older women to seek comfort in the arms of younger men, especially after divorce. When one love is lost, it’s natural to try to replace it with another. Trouble happens when feelings get involved.
  
  Just as with any relationship, make sure you’re not on the rebound. Just because a guy is younger doesn’t mean he lacks feelings. If, on the other hand, you’re looking for an emotional boost “just because,” a young guy might be just the ticket.
  
  Whatever you do, make sure the intentions of both parties are compatible.
  
  Be realistic.
  
  At first, you’ll be endeared by the younger guy’s flattery. His constant energy and sexual appetite are also extremely seductive, but they don’t last. As with anything in life, all good things must come to an end.
  
  This is where feelings come in. At some point in your life, you’re going to want a serious and emotionally-charged relationship. If that’s what you find with this young man, then good for you. If not, realize that the novelty of his youth will wear off.
  
  When that happens, all you’ve got is a young, confused boy.
  
  Know what to expect.
  
  Younger guys are (by their very nature) immature. That being said, they’re more likely to lie, cheat, and play games. This is to be expected, and must be approached with patience...to a certain degree.
  
  I’m not saying that all young men are of this caliber, but most are. Take that into consideration when becoming involved with one. If all you want is a quick “pick me up” on a dull life, he might be just the ticket. If you’re looking for true love, you might not find it with him.
  
  Then again, you just might.
  
  Summary
  
  Dating younger men is commonplace by older women nowadays. So long as you know what to expect and how to approach the situation, you could have a lot of fun! Your best bet is to do some soul searching, and know what you want. From there, open the lines of communication with the young man, and make sure you’re both on the same plate. Most importantly, don’t be ashamed of your sexual appetite!
  
  You’ve earned it!
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  by Derrick 3 months ago

  How to Instill Trust in Your Relationship
  
  You’ve been hurt by lovers before, and you can’t help but feel like your new lover is doing the same. Something in their actions has you questioning their sincerity. If you didn’t know better, they were just another liar out to deceive you.
  
  Before you point any fingers, stop and ask yourself why you feel this way. Have you ever considered the possibility that you’re the one with the problem? Maybe you’re making a mountain out of a mole hill (and going crazy in the process).
  
  If this sounds like a possibility, then this article is for you. Continue reading to learn the importance of trust, and how to regain it. Your relationship can only get better if you do.
  
  Let go of the past.
  
  Just because you’ve been wronged in the past doesn’t mean your new partner will do the same. In truth, everyone has had bad relationships. The difference is in how they are handled. Wise people learn from their mistakes, and move on. Unwise people allow their mistakes to haunt them for the rest of their lives.
  
  While both men and women have trust issues as a result of previous relationships, the problem is largely with females. Unfortunately, if you want a chance at true love, you have to let your guard down. Constantly suspecting your new mate of infidelity is only going to put a wedge between you.
  
  Where’s the love?
  
  When a relationship lacks trust, the result is friction. When the untrusting party feels friction, the result is a hostile living environment. Nothing the other partner says or does is right, and pretty soon, it feels like they’re sleeping with the enemy.
  
  When trust is missing, people’s natural reaction is to hold on too tightly. They feel that injecting control is the only way to prevent their significant others from leaving. The exact opposite is true. Think about it this way: Would you want to live in an environment where you’re constantly being yelled at and put down? I wouldn’t either.
  
  Consider counseling.
  
  If all else fails and you’re still unable to trust, it might be time to seek professional help. Consider couple’s therapy, or at the very least, seek individual assistance for yourself. The inability to trust impacts far more than just your romantic relationships. It affects your friendships, work, and personal satisfaction as well.
  
  The fact is that you can’t make another person happy unless you are happy first. Before diving into another relationship, assess your self-esteem and personal satisfaction. If it’s lacking, do whatever is necessary to fix the situation